Secondly, no the ‘C’ word is not Cancer; it is ‘Cunt’, yes, Cunt. I wanted to respond to the fact that Roseanne Barr (and the unfortunate hundreds of others working with her) lost her job because of a tweet that was absolutely UGLY and racially fired….then there was Samantha Bee, who spent a great deal of time investigating and reporting on the children in the American immigration quagmire just before calling Ivanka Trump a Cunt…
No, it doesn’t stop there…Sally Fields (an Oscar winner, household name and grandmother) proceeds to state that NO…ABSOLUTELY NOT, it was inappropriate to call Ivanka Trump a Cunt…because, Cunts are powerful, beautiful, nurturing and honest…implying that Ivanka Trump has none of those attributes.
Then, there was a flutter of activity on Twitter feeds and the internet regarding a liberal (Samantha Bee/Sally Fields) getting away with calling Ivanka Trump the worse name that anyone could call a woman…however, I worked for a very, very conservative Commonwealth of Pennsylvania, member of the Pennsylvania Bar Attorney, who called me a ‘Cunt’ and ‘Cuntist’ regularly from the spring of 2016 (before the general election of November 2016) through my resignation/quitting in May of 2017…he was applauded (encouraged would be too strong a word) by his family members who were, co-workers, in a sense…due to the fact that they were all very conservative Trump supporters and I was the only ‘Democrat’ in the room, so to speak. The Attorney (for whom I did contract work on a regular basis for an on/off period of seven (7) years) would justify the name calling even though I would insist that I was not a Hillary supporter (didn’t really like either candidate but I generally vote ‘progressive’). He felt he was justified and would laugh each time he called me the name; the others in the office either laughed along with him or ignored his name calling.
Yes, he would say he was calling me a ‘Cuntist’ in jest but it wasn’t really, was it? I was offended by it, he wouldn’t stop and 18 months ago, I ended my work/professional relationship with him, even though we had been friends (with some periods of distance) for about 60 years.
I’ve done a number of BLOG’s over the years on bullying, workplace behavior, management behavior, wage theft, trust fund theft issues, etc. so to be writing about this issue in 2018 is sad for me….especially since it was a behavior manifested by someone I had known a long time.
The bottom line is this: the conversations/statements made by Roseanne Barr, Samantha Bee and Sally Fields should never have taken place….the name calling, abuse and bullying which I received over a period of time from a member of the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania Bar Association should have never started and I should have never permitted it to continue….as they say…’my bad’…however, I did let it continue for the sake of the 60+ year friendship and through the encouragement of a number of other members of the Pennsylvania Bar Association, my family and friends, I walked away from the situation and I have never looked back. I would not have written about this if it hadn't been for the flurry of 'activity' in the media from these women in June of 2018.
When I would bring the negative comments and behavior to the aforementioned Attorney’s attention, he would state that I wasn’t his ‘employee’ and he could call me whatever name he wanted and he could say whatever he wanted to me…please note…our relationship wasn’t always as such…at one time, it was attentive, friendly, affectionate, professional and caring (from a friendship perspective) but as life goes on and his narcissism/insecurities (financial/family/practice issues) came into play, his behavior became increasingly more abusive, by my perspective.
I disagree with Sally Fields, even though I applaud her intent. I don’t feel that the word ‘cunt’ is a positive comment/critique, etc. I believe it is an affront to all women and should never be utilized in a public forum, the workplace or in any way that is demeaning.
Please be careful as to what you say to and how you treat another human being, either in or out of the workplace. Words have an ability to impact individuals in many positive and damaging ways. The women noted above are aware of this fact and the attorney with his megalomaniacal behavior is also aware of this fact. He would threaten me regularly that he would ‘destroy’ me with his words if I tried to challenge him.
I’ve been a ‘whistle blower’ a few times, with negative effects to me but powerfully detrimental effects to the organizations and the individuals that I’ve ‘whistle blown’. Workplace threats should not deter anyone from following their convictions within the confines of the law. Please note that 'whistle blowing' has it's own set of rules and, from first hand experience, I would advise following the rules pertaining to your environment.
If you have any questions regarding acceptable workplace behavior from an employer or employee perspective, please contact Rosanne Bennett at firstname.lastname@example.org or at 484-947-7063. Again, be careful what you say and how you speak.